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Photographer. Writer. 45yo Indo-Fijian Australian. Glam Feminist. Coconuts.

Tuesday, November 23, 2010

Meshed Up...

Awwww. I lost a follower today. L

I was chuffed to officially have over 100 hundred followers (hate that term).  100 and 1.  I was thrilled!!!  But alas... someone decided that I am not worth their time and that's fine, it's fine but you know, I'm human ["totally weird"] so feel a little... um... rejected.   I know.  I'm a dweeb.
...but thank you to all of you who do follow this blog... thank you, thank you, thank you!  I am humbled that are so many lovely people actually interested in what I have to say or wear.

Anyway, I was taken aback at my reaction to losing a reader.  In the physical world, I really don't give a toss (emphasised by the insouciant tossing of my mesh skirt above) if someone dislikes me, or worse, for no apparent reason other than I irritate them.  In this case, what other people think of me is none of my business.  It's their problem.
...but I was actually fighting feelings of hurt.  I actually spent more than a gazillionth of a second wondering why this person, a virtual (ha!) stranger, didn't like me anymore.  woah!  That is seriously messed up!!  

I'm over it now.  I don't dwell on what I don't have.  I'm grateful for what I do have.  And that's you darling reader.  Thank you for being here.  We mesh well yes? 

black mesh silver sequinned home-made skirt (worn over flared leggings) * ivory cotton denim vest-jacket * clear perspex wedge espadrilles (I have had these Michael Kors shoes for a long loooong time) * 'egg' ivory bangle * black silver sequinned wool bangle made by me. 

...Oh by the way, you may have noticed (if you comment) that I have done away with word verification (as have many others)... much easier isn't it??  But damn that spam! 
That's why I still keep 'blogger approval'!  Aren't the spam comments funny??!!  eg:
"Might you folks have a the Facebook as well as a twit follower supporter website? My husband and I did some searching for 1 on Squidoo and MySpace but couldn’t stumble on one of them. I’d like to turn into a fan! [URL deleted]"

...and.... do you like the stars?  Or are they irritating?



Misfits Vintage said...

Well, I am CHUFFED to be your 101st follower. I have 14 followers and two of them are me!! I'm not even sure how that happened but I think it's hilarious! I love the stars - not distracting at all! Sarah xxx

Sher said...

Of cos I love them stars! And don't worry about losing a follower, in my experience you will gain two more in no time! But I get what you mean about feeling rejected, I feel that all the time too when I lose a follower!

p.s. You looked like a star yourself in this lovely glittery skirt! Adorable, darling:)

xx said...

I love the star and you and your smile. Gorgeous!!!

And I know the feeling of 'virtual rejection' ... hehe .. but I realized that every time I lost one I gain 5 others ... So it is a fair deal. Also I unfollow people all the time too, not to hurt them but 'coz their matter doesn't appeal to me and I have nothing positive to add to their blogging experience. So why be a hinderance in their journey ... and let go. Also I am obsessed with organization and cleanliness so too many unnecessary people also seem like clutter in my life. I have this uncontrollable urge to have people I value all around me in all shape and form! :) Phew, please excuse the useless banter!

Leia said...

Oh dear. I lose a follower at least once a week! I try not to dwell on it - sometimes people follow you in the hopes that you'll follow them back, and when you don't, they 'unfollow.' I just try to remember that there are so many lovely, genuine people who DO care what I have to say... and that makes up for it! :)

The stars are pretty. And spam! I don't have word verification or comment approval, and I've noticed that lately I've been getting lots of harry potter spam... it's like they KNOW I dislike the whole harry potter obsession and they're TRYING to bug me! ;)

You look gorgeous. That skirt is phenomenal!


Jana and Vanessa said...

Really nice pictures and such a cute skirt. Keep it up and thanks for sharing!
All the best
Midnight Couture Girls

Kiran Bajaj Sawhney said...

I love your honesty in saying that loosing a follower hurt you. It is normal. But how many of us would ever say/admit that?
Having said that, I would like to quote from Art of Living, Guruji- Sri Sri Ravi Shankar Ji. He says, "Do not be a football of other person's opinions".
To explain this is- Supposing a person gives you 10 compliments and adds 1 negative comment. Your mind would dwell on that 1 negative comment and you would ponder as to why he/she said so. It would not think about 10 compliments that you got.
Similarly you did not rejoice in 100 followers but dwelled on loosing 1.
I wish I had 10 id's. I would have followed you with each ID. Cheer up and SMILE.

Vintage Vixen said...

Backwards, I am. I'm responding to the Mambo Hula shirt post here and must say it's rocking and your legs are the bomb! I love seing your gloriously sunny shots whilst your poor Brit pals are huddled under layers of woollens and scraping the ice off our car windows. xxx

Aria said...

Love the stars!

now you have 103 followers! :D

Cheryl: Oh to Be a Muse said...

there is always so much movement in your outfits. i love that!

Anonymous said...

I just added your feed to my favorites. I really enjoy reading your posts..